Monthly Archives: August 2013

My Dream and Reality

I’m 33 year-old and I haven’t figured out how to accomplish my dream; to make money as a professional writer. The challenge is, I have two little mouths to feed.

As I pursue my dream of publishing a novel, I need to have what society calls “a day job.”
It’s a stupid term, really. I don’t want a “day job,” I want my “dream job.”

I love being around children. I enjoy teaching. I’ve worked as a substitute teacher for four years while parenting my children. I started subbing when Ari was one and continued to this day.  I worked through my second pregnancy teaching in the New York City public school system. But I don’t have my masters degree.  I have one more year left to finish my M.S.ed, but it’s not in early childhood education, it’s in rehabilitation counseling.

I don’t want to work in Voc/Rehab anymore honestly, but I need to complete my masters degree. It will allow for me to earn more money and get a job that supports my family financially.

I intend on returning to graduate school this year and completing my masters degree.

This is all well and good, but what about my dream?

I know I have to make money, but I want to accomplish my goal and live my dream.

I want to see “Sarah Fader” on the cover of a book. I want to believe that this is going to happen in my lifetime.

I’m not afraid to say “this is what I want.” I have been afraid in the past. I’ve pushed my dreams down deep into a broken dilapidated wooden trunk, never to be heard from again. I didn’t believe that it was possible to achieve them.

I do now.

I believe that I can publish a novel. But in order to do that, I need to keep writing. And in order to keep writing that has to be my sole focus. If I have a full-time job, I can’t see how I’m going to achieve that dream.

I could think myself into oblivion.

I’m excellent at over-thinking. I should put that on my resume.

Maybe the key is not to think too much, and to make a plan. But what is that plan?

Only I know the answer to that.

Cultured Kids: Top Museums for the Little Ones in London

The following is a sponsored post, which I have been compensated for. I love London! I have fond memories of my semester abroad there, and I would love to take Ari and Samara back to the U.K. to visit some day. If you’re planning a trip to London check these museums out! I know I will :)


Getting the kids out and about is part and parcel of the summer holidays; they’re a perfect opportunity to break the normal cycle and enjoy some quality time with your kids that ordinarily, you may not get. While there’s often plenty to do closer to home, a trip to the Big Smoke could be just what you all need, with endless things to do that will suit all the family.

Forcing them on a walking tour of London, to catch sight of all of the iconic landmarks, is one sure-fire way to make them cranky – it’s tiring for adults on sightseeing tours, let alone the young ones. Instead, plan child-friendly trips to attractions that appeal to the younger, inquisitive mind, such as the plethora of fun and interactive museums that the city holds. If you’re considering staying in the central London for more than just a day (after all, you will need more than a day to see everything you’ve been wanting to see), book into a Travelodge in London city centre and be a stone’s throw from all the major sights and child-friendly museums.

The sheer volume of museums that you could choose from in the city is exhaustive, but these three offerings are some of the most popular, for all the right reasons.

Natural History Museum
If you’ve ever been to a local natural history museum, you’d be forgiven in thinking that every museum of this ilk involves badly made papier mache models of dinosaurs and dust-ridden exhibits of taxidermy animals and skeletons. That’s not what this London beast of a museum has within its walls and is totally worth a visit. The life-size diplodocus that towers above you as you walk into the main foyer is a reason in itself to come to see what’s in store and that’s without even touching on the other fascinating displays and interactive exhibits that can be found here.

Science Museum
Even a child with the attention span of a gnat will find plenty to keep them enthralled at the Science Museum, with ample opportunity to get stuck into science and experience things for themselves. From hands on exhibits in the Launchpad area to a gargantuan telescope and the Legend of Apollo 4D cinema, all aspects of science are on show here. Plus, throughout the school holidays, you could treat your kids to tickets for The Energy Show in the IMAX theatre – perfect for the curious mind.

British Museum
It’s well worth a visit to the British Museum, if only to ogle for hours in the Egyptian section – kids seem to love it in there! With plenty of different trails to suit various ages, you can guarantee that the children’s attention will be maintained for as long as possible.
Make sure you check out the family events beforehand – a range of workshops are carried out throughout the summer holidays to keep idle hands busy.

If you have time, make sure you take your brood to the V&A Museum of Childhood too – they’ll love the exhibits on show and you will enjoy the trip down memory lane, too!

When Someone Tells Me “You Can’t.”

When someone tells me “you can’t” or “that’s not possible” something inside my core ignites.

I will prove that someone wrong.

I can and I will.
Oh, you don’t know what you just did, someone.

You thought you were discouraging me. Instead, you are egging me on.

You thought you were telling me that you knew more than I do.

Well you don’t.

Now, you’ve presented me with a challenge, not a road block.

I can.
I will.
Step aside.

By saying the words ” Sorry, you can’t accomplish that.” What you did was make me 100 percent sure that I will prove you wrong.

I will succeed.
I’m stronger than your words.

In fact, thank you for telling me “you can’t.” I’m going to take those words, put them in my internal gas tank and rev my engine so loud it will deafen your ears.

I’ll win the race.
I will do what I set out to do.

So keep telling me “you can’t.”
Because I can.
And I will.
Watch me.

Circle Line Radio Disney Cruise - Win Tickets!

A couple of weeks ago, I wrote to Lindsey over at Circle Line Cruises and asked if she would be interested in collaborating on a Circle Line Cruise Giveaway. She said yes! The kids and I were excited!

Lindsey provided me with tickets to the Circle Line Radio Disney Cruise for Saturday August 10th, one of Circle Line’s many children’s oriented cruises.

In true Sarah Fader fashion, I was running late for the cruise, and we just made it as the ship was taking off from the dock! I quickly said hi to Lindsey and scurried onto the boat with my giant stroller :)

The kids and I were safely aboard and we set sail!

Once we got on board, there were many exciting activities for the kids to partake in. But first, Samara had to put her Sophia the First crown on:

I could hardly get it off of her. Even now that we’re back on land, she wants to wear it all the time.

There was a professional balloon artist aboard:

There was music and dancing featuring the Disney Junior Show theme songs! There was also a magician, who the kids could not get enough of!

And an amazing face painter!

These children (who are now art objects) let me take their picture after the final product!

There was an awesome announcer who narrated our journey.

We circled around Manhattan while the announcer told us about the history of the island with charisma and a few silly jokes. One of the highlights of the journey was when we saw the Statue of Liberty!

We had an awesome time, and I can’t wait for the Circle Line Kid’s cruise in September featuring The Berenstein Bears!
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Two Scorpios and One Pitbull for Adoption

Today I set out to get a muffin at Blue Sky and I ran into this beautiful dog named Cookie:

Cookie is being fostered by Saul and Mike, a lovely Scorpio couple who live in Park Slope. They were both born November 3rd! We spent 45 minutes standing in front of Blue Sky talking about their astrological charts. 
Anyway, I really wanted to adopt Cookie. But my dad would kill me. So instead I’m writing about her and putting her into the universe for someone else to love. 
If you want her, she’s available! She’s the best dog ever. 
Look at her!
Cookie is about a year old and super sweet. If I had to guess her sign, I’d go with Cancer. 
Post a comment if you’re interested in adopting her OR just tell me how cute she is!

Starting Shakespeare - Pyramus and Thisbe - A Bedtime Story

One day, I was looking at the Complete Works of Shakespeare that I’ve owned since my sophomore year of college. I kept getting this nagging feeling that I wanted to start Ari on Shakespeare, but I couldn’t decide what play to read first.

I’m an actress myself, and a graduate of Performing Arts High School (the Fame school) so Shakespeare has been an integral part of my life.

I remembered hearing an audio version of A Midsummer Night’s Dream when I was in the sixth grade. I’ve also seen multiple
productions of it, although I’ve never performed in one myself.

My recollection of Midsummer was that it was a fun light hearted play with mistaken identity and lovers getting mixed up. There are also fairies. Kids like fairies.

We started reading a scene a night. I stop during the scenes to explain what’s going on.

Today we read the scene where the players, Quince, Bottom and company are getting ready to perform Pyramus and Thisbe. Snug asks if he can play the lion because he’s afraid to have real lines and he can handle roaring.

I explained to Ari that Snug was going to be the lion and he laughed and said:
“I can roar too! Roar!”

We both laughed. I love a
five year-old’s perspective on Shakespeare.

I’m having fun remembering Midsummer as I reread it myself.

Would you read your kid Shakespeare?
What play would you start with?



What Do You Do When You Feel Sad?

Today I feel sad.

I decided to take a “not glamorous” picture of myself because I feel sad.

I look like a turtle in this picture. I’m okay with that.

I don’t feel depressed (as I have felt in the past) but just a little low.

I’m not going to go into the reasons I feel sad, because they’re irrelevant. I also have my period which (as you know) makes me feel less than great. 

I should feel happy, because Ari is cleaning the living room. But I’m sad

I accept the fact that I’m sad.

But I also want to do things to make myself feel “un-sad” or “better.”

Some of the things I do when I’m sad to make myself feel better are:
1. Eat chocolate.
2. Call a friend.
3. Look at pictures of cats online.
4. Watch a really funny movie.
5. Write a blog post about how I feel.
6. Do something productive like the dishes.
7. Think about people that are less fortunate than me and feel grateful that I have a home.
8. Hug my kids.
9. Pet my cats.
10. Draw a picture of a tree.
11. Paint a picture.
12. Punch a pillow.
13. Hug a pillow.
14. Hug a friend.
15. Go out for tea with a friend.
16. I sing!

What do you do to make yourself feel better when you’re sad?

The Old Fireman By Ari

Ari wrote a story yesterday. As the Native Americans did, he recited his story aloud. My mom was there to record it:

I felt it was important to document this momentous milestone (Ari’s first story) here. So without further ado, I present The Old Fireman:

The Old Fireman
By Ari

Once there was an old man. He wanted to turn into a fireman. But he couldn’t turn into a fireman, because he didn’t have magic. He visited the firefighters and he told the firefighters and he said:
“Can I be a firefighter?”

The fireman said “You can’t be a firefighter.” The fireman also said “you can only be a firefighter when it is Friday. But today is Monday.”

So the old man went back to his old house. It was a dark time. The man was sleeping. And then it was morning time. The old man went to the fire station again. The old man asked the firefighter if he could be a fireman today.
The fireman said “Yes, so put on your boots and put on your hat. There is an emergency!”

Then everyone in the city was sleeping.

The End.

Win a Copy of Unstuff Your Life! An Interview With Andrew Mellen, Professional Organizer!

Today I interviewed Andrew Mellen, professional organizer.

I met him at BlogHer13′ through Jason Mayo, who writes at Outnumbered.

Andrew and I met at Four and Twenty Blackbirds, one of the best pie places in the universe. Our goals were to do the interview about organization and then eat as much pie as humanly possible. We accomplished both goals.

Andrew talked about his organizational concept, the Organizational Triangle:
1. One home for everything - Everything in your house has a place it belongs.
2. Like with like - All cosmetics go in one box
3. Something in, something out - Do not bring something into your home unless you know what it is replacing and where it will live.

Want to know more? Watch my interview with Andrew below:

Enter to win a copy of Unstuff Your Life below!

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Andrew is running a series of back to school webinars! Get organized before your kids go back to school!  For more information, check out his site here. 

Writer’s Block Can Be Fun!

I’ve been trying to write every day. But today, I have no idea what to write about. So I’ll tell you a few random things I feel like sharing.

I can touch my tongue to my nose!

I have a lizard tongue!

Also I did all the dishes today! I’m so proud of myself.

My favorite color is green.

I’m allergic to cow’s milk, although I found that out recently.

Look I’m purple!

I’m good at a lot of things, but organization is not one of them. I am (however) good at editing things like term papers and college essays for other people.

Do you like pie?

I like pie sometimes. But I really like cake.

I like cats because they’re spiritual. I like dogs because they’re friendly.

I like you.

Until you’re mean, and then you’ll make me cry.

Bye!