Monthly Archives: July 2009

Ari Discovers The Webcam

After several fruitless attempts to get my son away from the computer, I decided to embrace his obsession with this particular technology. Instead of letting him blindly bang on the keyboard, I had another plan. I introduced him to the webcam where he could see himself on the computer screen. Needless to say he was fascinated. See for yourself in this video:

Is There a Clean Tee-Shirt in This House?

It’s a very easy thing to do; stay in your house. Especially when the weather is hot and humid outside and you don’t feel like you live in New York City anymore but rather the rain forest in a South American country. Personally, this kind of weather makes me want to become one with my couch, soak up the air conditioning in my living room and eat a lot of ice cream.

If you’re anything like me in this situation, you create excuses not to leave the house. I can’t find a clean tee-shirt therefore I must stay in today! Plus, it’s overwhelming to try to leave the house with a baby in tow. You need to compile a bag of supplies to make sure your child is satisfied both physically and emotionally for the duration of the time that you are in the outside world. It can be a daunting task.


On the other hand, I once had a therapist who gave me these wise words of advice: “When in doubt don’t bail out!” Meaning, if you have plans to do something or go somewhere, and you are considering canceling those plans for an arbitrary reason to stay home, DON’T. Force yourself to leave the house. Go out!

Why go out? Why not! If you stay in, the day will be predictable. You’ll watch a lot of TV, go a lot stir crazy, and by the end of the day you’ll feel worse. But if you go out, the possibilities expand.

Even if you visit familiar haunts, you may meet new people, find a new spot in the park that you didn’t even know existed and by the end of the day you will have given yourself three important gifts: surroundings that are not the four walls of your apartment, fresh air and a little sanity.

So if you are debating whether or not to get out of the house, do it! Go out there and take a walk with your child. Even if it’s around the block, even if you have no destination in mind. Your mind and your body will thank you for it.

Babies and The Elderly

Babies are loved by many, but nobody loves a good baby more than the elderly.

My best friend’s father has dementia. Before he got sick, George always loved babies. I am happy to report that despite his illness, George’s love for babies has remained intact.

Yesterday, my son and I went to visit my best friend and George in their apartment. It was difficult to carry on a conversation with George because he was staring into space the majority of the time. Then I had an idea.

For months now, OK, a notorious tabloid magazine, has been sending my best friend their periodical despite her efforts to thwart them. To show my support for their demise, I begin ripping pages from OK one by one and handing them to George. Then I threw them up into the air and screamed. This excited both George and my son who began to laugh. Babies and the elderly share joy in the simpler things.

Frequently during the day, George sat in a chair and stared off into space. At one point he began to cry spontaneously. My best friend comforted him, and assured him that he was crying because he was confused and could not communicate what he was wanted to say. I wanted to help too but felt ill equipped to do so. But then I remembered, I had a baby with me! So I picked up my son and put him in George’s face. He began to laugh once again.

There is something inherently funny about babies. They are not only cute, but they do weird and quirky things like read books upside down, eat paper towels or babble in their own alien language. They are just discovering the world; whereas the elderly have already been living in the world for sometime. Babies remind the elderly of a simpler, stranger more entertaining time, when one is just getting used to themselves, their body, learning to walk and talk and just be.

George loved watching my son do weird things all day. Conversely, my son enjoyed engaging in strange activities; like holding a green marker in one hand and a blue one in the other and drawing on both paper and himself. His hands are still a hybrid of green and blue.

When my son is older I will show these pictures to him and share the stories of the funny things he did to brighten George’s days.

Can I borrow Your Phone?

Although my trip to Puerto Rico was loads of fun, there was one thing that did go wrong: I lost my phone. Yes, friends, my phone was eaten by the sands of Condado Beach. I’m a little sad about it. Okay I am a lot sad about it. It was the G1 Google phone and I had an intense love affair with it.

But, the good news is this: I am not phone-less now. T-Mobile came to the rescue, and it didn’t cost me a penny.

I was in a desperate situation. When we got back from Puerto Rico we were totally broke and I couldn’t afford to buy a new phone. At least not immediately. I was so overwhelmed and depressed about the situation that I was resigned to the fact that I would just go without a phone for a while. But my boyfriend would not have this.

“I have to be able to get in touch with you! I need to be able to check on you and our son!”

So I called T-Mobile and asked them what they could do for me. It turns out T-Mobile has a program called the “Loaner Phone Program” for people in my situation. The way the program works is this.

-File a claim with your phone insurance company to get your replacement phone.
-Go to a T-Mobile store and give them the claim number.
-T-Mobile hands you a FREE phone that you can borrow for two weeks until your permanent phone arrives.

Tada! You are no longer phone-less. My one warning to you: the loaner phones do tend to go quickly, so it is important that you call ahead to the T-Mobile store to make sure they have the loaner phones in stock.

Also, the loaner phone itself is nothing fancy. It’s just a basic no frills phone, that you can make calls out of. Mine doesn’t have a camera or any fancy accesories, but it will do. I’m constantly running around with my son, and I cannot be without a phone, as my boyfriend pointed out so eloquently.

So if you have T-Mobile service, and you lose your phone. Don’t fret. Just get a loaner phone!

A Visit to Museo del Niño

Today I had the privilege of visiting San Juan’s Museo del Niño (The Children’s Museum) with my son and my boyfriend, who (incidentally) was the photographer of this photo:


We tried to visit the museum yesterday, but it was Monday and apparently this museum is closed on Mondays. We found this out after trekking from Condado Beach all the way to Old San Juan on the bus, only to find the museum’s sad sign that read “Cerrado” -”Closed.”

Today was Tuesday, and the museum was, in fact, open so we had a chance to visit. Admission to the museum is $7.00 for children (ages 1-15) and $5.00 for adults.

Museo del Niño has classic children’s toys like the following:


You may recognize this vintage toy from any pediatrician’s office you or your child have visited since the 1980′s; or possibly earlier in time, but I can only speak for my generation.

In addition to classic toys, Museo del Niño also has more elaborate structures for children to play with. Such as the following:


And how about these?



In addition to these impressive structures, the museum also had traditional activities for children of varying ages to engage in. These included a dress up area with lots of mirrors:


A baby and toddler area with small houses for children 0-3 to run in and out of.

And much much more. In total the museum had three floors of activities for children. But I think the most valuable aspect of this visit was gained by a conversation I had with a museum employee. After exiting the baby and toddler area, he told us his thoughts on working at a children’s museum:

“Children are great,” he said “They are a lot of fun. It’s their parents that are annoying. When they stop their children from doing things, from playing. That’s what the kids are here for!”

He is a wise man. I couldn’t agree more. Places like Museo del Niño allow children to be themselves; to play freely. You can let your kid run around and go nuts. That’s what this place is for. As opposed to the rest of the world, where you essentially have to constantly silence your child and tell them to behave “appropriately” whatever that means.

If you are planning a visit to San Juan, visit Museo del Niño. You and your kid(s) will love it!

For more information on Museo del Niño visit their website here.

The Ocean is a Toy

The ocean is many things; it is beautiful, mysterious, sometimes dangerous with it’s unpredictable ebb and flow. But today I have learned that (in addition to all these qualities that the ocean possesses) it is also a toy.

Let me explain; my son decided that when the waves wash into the shore it is hysterically funny.


And when they leave the shore and go back out into the ocean’s abyss, this is even funnier.



I knew that my child liked water; what I didn’t know was that he thought it was hilarious. It just goes to show you that a child can view a natural phenomenon entirely different from us adults. We look at the ocean and we see a massive body of water; sometimes peaceful sometimes erratic, but always volatile. But a child views this body of water as exciting, funny, and strange.

Thank you ocean, for keeping my child and me on my toes.

Puerto Rico: Where Children are Loved

Greetings from sunny (sometimes rainy for five minutes and then sunny again) Puerto Rico! Where the natives love children and say things like:

“Que Lindo! Su nino caminando.” - “How beautiful, your child is walking.”


Puerto Ricans love children. I cannot tell you how many random people; people on the street people in restaurants, people at the bus station , even homeless people have gone out of their way to make comments about how cute my kid was. I even got a discount on a pair of sandals for my son because the sales people thought he was cute.

After we purchased the sandals a nice older woman approached my son and carefully disinfected his hands with Purell hand santizer because she saw him crawling all over the store’s floor and was concerned about germs. All the while she was repeating “Que lindo, que lindo.” - “How beautiful.”

It has to be a cultural thing. When I walk down the streets of Brooklyn, few strangers approach me to oogle at my child. But in Puerto Rico we can’t go a block without getting stopped by strangers who want to accost and touch my child.

It’s kind of nice actually, how much Puerto Ricans love and appreciate children. We attempted to go to their most prominent manifestation of their appreciation for children (Museo Del Nino- The Children’s Musuem) but it was closed today because it is Monday. Apparently (like many museums in The United States) The Children’s Museum is closed Mondays and open Tuesdays thru Fridays. But we did get a fun picture in front of the musuem.

We intend to try to revisit this museum tomorrow when it is officially open. Until then, we will just pass by more random strangers who will bless us with their love of children.

More on Puerto Rico to come…

A New Friend Named Rupert

For the past few weeks my son has been waking up at night and screaming. I’m not sure of the cause, but I have a sense that it is because he is lonely. So my solution: give him a fuzzy friend to ease the pain.


He is a platypus and his name is Rupert. My son loves him. He has made going to sleep easier. When it is time to take a nap or go to sleep for the night, I hand him Rupert and all is well in the world.


So those of who are dealing with night separation anxiety from your child, try a stuffed animal friend! He/She just might help ease the bedtime blues.

Why are Children’s Books So Inane?

In the course of reading several children’s books, I have realized one major flaw about many of them; they are incredibly boring.

Many of the baby board books are repetitive and less than compelling. I cannot tell you how many baby books I have read about the sounds that barnyard animals make:

Pig = Oink, Cow= Moo, Cat = Meow etc.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not expecting to read a literary masterpiece in a “board book,” but come on! Even if there is a simplistic concept, at least the drawings could be innovative; different; creative; unique in some way shape or form.

Of all beings, children are the most open to off beat concepts. Authors and artists should take advantage of this aspect of children and create children’s books that reflect children’s innovative nature.

Summer Reading, Had Me a Blast!

You all know how much I love the Brooklyn Public Library. There are so many reasons why I love it. The access to free books, the kids events and now this; The Summer Reading Program.

My friend Josina told me about this program that is exclusively available at the library. And guess what? It’s free!

It works like this:

1. You go to the library
2. Head to the children’s section
3. Ask to sign up for the Summer Reading program
4. The librarian will hand you all the materials you need.

You will get a “Reading Log,” a booklet which is numbered inside from 1 - 30. Here you will write down the 30 books that you read to your son or daughter (or both) over the summer. Next to the title of the books are stars which enable you to rate how much you and your child liked the book you read.

When you have completed the the 30 books, return the booklet and….get this?… you get a prize! To be honest, I don’t know what the prize it, but we will find out at the end of the summer and let you know.

You can also sign up for Summer Reading online! Visit: www.summerreading.org and register your child here. You can login in here and write reviews to the books you’ve read.

Don’t be shy! Sign up for Summer Reading today!