Category Archives: Wilhelm

How Does He Do It?

I’ve been trying to get Samara to take a nap all day. I’ve been rocking her, patting to her, letting her cry a little, giving her the pacifier, you get the idea. Finally, Wil says to me “I’ll take her.”
I gladly hand over the baby and go do the dishes. 15 minutes later, I return to the living room and find this:

I’m sure when he wakes up he’s going to brag about how awesome he is. I want to know how he does it. It’s not fair! It comes so easily to him. I’m her mother, I should know what to do!

I’ve asked him what is secret is, but he insists that he doesn’t have one.

“I just try everything babe.” He says.

I try everything too, but nothing works.

Well, at least she’s asleep. I should really be sleeping too.

Resentment of The Night Shift

My boyfriend, Wilhelm, works the night shift at an airline. The means that he sleeps during the daytime. He has Fridays and Saturdays off, but Friday daytime is reserved for catching up on sleep and come Saturday his circadian rhythms are so thrown off that he is sleeping half the day on Saturday as well. We end up hanging out as a family at night time. But during the day I feel like this:

I know he’s tired. I get that. But I’m tired too! When he is sleeping through the day (like he is right now) I am up at 7am or earlier and taking care of my son.

Don’t get me wrong, I absolutely love spending time with my kid. But sometimes, I need a break! I resent Wil’s night shift and what it does to my exhaustion level and my day! He’s sleeping and I am busting my ass all day! Meanwhile, most every other couple with children are out having a “family day.”
Has anyone had a boyfriend/husband/wife/partner that worked nights? How did you deal with this situation?