I’ve been living on the Internet for around nine years. I probably talk about my relationships too much online. And I don’t mean my online friends I mean my real life relationships with regard to romantic issues. I am not good at being in romantic relationships because they trigger my trust issues with people. I’ve been in couples counseling
many times in my life, but not before getting married. And although it does help me it is not the answer to my psychological issues with regard to partnership. I love to be loved and I feel like that’s a human emotion that we all want.
I have talked about self-love on my blog a lot and I believe it’s important to embrace loving yourself. That doesn’t mean that I don’t want a partner in life. I want to be in a relationship where I am loved and appreciated for who I am. And I know that that sort of connection is out there.
In someways I don’t think there’s anything wrong with me talking about my relationships. I just don’t want to expose the people involved because that isn’t necessarily fair to them. And I have had the people that I’ve been involved with in romantic relationships tell me that they don’t feel comfortable having their business talked about online. I completely respect that.
I also have friends that are not in social media that are very private about what goes on in their marriages. I respect this as well. Everybody has a different way of coping with the different issues that may arise in their romantic relationships and we can’t tell people how to do be.
I have friends that are in marriages that on the surface appeared to be healthy. They are invested in making their marriages work for the long term. That makes me happy. I wonder sometimes if they went to counseling before they got married. I know that that is something that some people do in order to be on the same page. Are used to think that was kind of weird but now I’m kind of understanding that it’s not so strange to want to plan for the future. And if you go to see a therapist before you get married you’re more likely to be on the same page as your partner.
This doesn’t mean that you can’t be unique from one another. People who are extraordinarily different from one another get married all the time. It’s just a matter of what you’re comfortable with. In my opinion it’s about embracing people‘s differences because you are going to clash with one another even if your similar to each other. And in fact people that are similar to each other clash a lot because they are stubborn and want things to be their way.
Marriage is something that we all think about at one time or another even if we do not get married. If you are married, I am curious to know how much of your intimate details you share with your friends or family. Do you keep your relationship private? Or are you more open about what’s happening either online or with your friends. Let me know your thoughts.