Women Are Powerful Beyond Expectation

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Women Are Powerful Beyond Expectation

The other day my friend Alex was over helping me hang a 20 X 30 picture frame of my kids on the brick wall of my apartment. As I watched her at work, I said to her “You’re like my surrogate man.” I said this because I am a newly single mom.  I began to laugh a little to myself and then I thought: no. That’s not true. And I said it aloud.

“Wait, a second. That’s not true. Women can be just as handy as men are. Look at you working your magic on that picture frame. ”

Alex laughed to herself and said: “I was gonna say, when she’s old enough,” and she pointed to Samara, my daughter, “I’ll teach her how to use a power drill.”

We both laughed. “I would love that. And I bet she’ll be really good at it.”

Though society would have you believe otherwise, single mothers don’t need a man.  My friend Kristen (also a single mom)  told me a story about a proud independent moment she had. She bought a new futon and needed to remove her old one. With no help, she dragged the old futon out of her house, down a flight of stairs, out onto the street, around the corner and into the dumpster. The best part of the story was her neighbor came out, saw what was going on and remarked “Do you need me to get my husband?” Kristen turned around confidently, flexed her muscle and said “Nope, I did it myself.”

This story exemplifies how powerful women can be. We do not need the help of  man to complete life tasks.

Yet, the pervasive societal view is that a man is essential to a make a household complete. A friend of mine (another single mother) was at her son’s school PTA meeting. A parent randomly approached her and asked “where’s your husband?” I don’t know how she refrained from punching this person in the face, but she did. This stranger’s distorted viewpoint is (unfortunately) the prevalent view of our society. The truth is “where her husband is” is none of this person’s business.

Women need to believe (confidently) that we can do what it takes to be independent regardless of what society says about us. There is a floating misconception out there among women that if there is no man, then many tasks remain incomplete. I want to debunk this idea. Women can do whatever we set our minds to. We are powerful beyond expectation.

By | 2014-04-20T00:18:32+00:00 April 20th, 2014|Uncategorized|8 Comments


  1. Kristen April 20, 2014 at 1:22 am

    That was a really proud moment for me. 🙂 I think most single moms will understand why.

  2. jess.⚓ April 20, 2014 at 7:20 am

    This is a wonderful post, Sarah…and so true.

    My friend Robyn and I moved the kitchen contents and the majority of my bedroom furniture upstairs by ourselves when my then landlord told me I could start moving in to the upstairs apartment when Matt was gone for guys weekend.

    That says a lot, considering my physical state.

    We shall debunk this theory as well…just like we are doing with stigma fighting.

  3. Old School/New School Mom April 20, 2014 at 7:25 am

    Wow. You’re so powerful. I’m impressed by you every day my love.

  4. Old School/New School Mom April 20, 2014 at 7:25 am

    You’re a bad ass.

  5. Sarah M. April 20, 2014 at 7:38 am

    Empowering and inspiring, thanks for posting this! As a single mom its important to embrace and accept the power within us.

  6. Old School/New School Mom April 20, 2014 at 7:49 am

    You’re welcome 🙂 I’m happy to tell society the truth.

  7. Alexandra Sullivan April 21, 2014 at 1:09 am

    We also discovered I can make balloon dogs.

    But yes, it’s amazing what you can handle when you need to get things done on your own. No matter who we are, it’s important to have a little confidence in our own ability to manage the things we need to in order to survive. Or at least to remember that we don’t know for a fact that we can’t do something unless we try.

    Also, you know I think Samara is a genius.

  8. Old School/New School Mom April 21, 2014 at 7:04 am

    Samara is a genius, but let me just be a really embarrassing Jewish mother and say that you are one too. That’s why you guys get along. I had no fucking idea how to make those balloon animals but you rocked that. That’s pretty damn awesome.

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