The Developmental Milestone War

“Aww! Your son is so cute! How old is he?”

“A year.”

“Really? He’s big for a year. Is he walking?”

“No, no he’s not walking yet.”

“Oh, well my daughter was walking at 9 months. Just give him time he’ll do it. Is he talking yet?”

“Yeah, he says ‘mama’ and ‘dada’ but he doesn’t really know what they mean.”

“Well, my daughter was talking at 11 months, he’s going to get there….”

Sound familiar? What I have just recounted is a common phenomenon amongst parents; competition.

Human beings are inherently competitive. But that competition intensifies when it comes to our children. Because our children are extensions of ourselves.

So if another parent tells me that their child is talking at one year, I get anxious and defensive; its only natural. I’m thinking to myself:

Why isn’t my son talking? Is there something wrong with him? Is there something wrong with me? What’s going on?!

So what do I do? I bring up some other wonderful thing that he has started to do!

“Well, he just recently started pointing!! And that’s early too! He’s actually under a year. Usually kids don’t start pointing until after they turn a year.”

I know, its immature of me. But I need to feel secure about my son’s development and my parenting skills. But I’ve noticed that I’m not alone. Many other parents are competitive with regard to their children.

However, I have noticed that this competition is not productive. For me, it makes me constantly question myself and my son.

The solution; be more mindful of when I compete with other parents. My competitive nature is not going to make my son do things any faster. Because at the end of the day, our kids do things at their own pace on their journey to becoming who they are.

Adiri Bottle Arrived

Just wanted to let you guys know that the Adiri bottle has arrived. It is a Stage 1 feeding bottle which means that the flow is slow.

I haven’t sampled it yet, but plan on doing so soon.

Please check back here at oldschoolnewschoolmom.blogspot.com for my review of the Adiri bottle.

FuzziBunz Review

It’s the review you all have been waiting for…

So those of you that have been following my blog know that I recently wrote to FuzziBunz to ask for a sample cloth diaper. Well, I received in the mail not only one, but two FuzziBunz one size fits all diapers.

The diapers are well made and of excellent quality.

The part of cloth diapering that really intimidated me was the washing. I knew that there were multiple steps involved in washing cloth diapers, but I didn’t know what they were. But FuzziBunz makes it look easy. On their website they have simple direct washing instructions.

All one has to do is this:

1. Remove the soiled diaper insert

2. Dump any solid waste directly into the toilet and flush!

3. Do a cold rinse of the diaper and the insert with no detergent

4. Do a hot wash with a mild detergent safe for cloth diapering (like Seventh Generation free and clear or Seven Generation Baby)

5. **Optional*** If the washer you are using does not rinse with cold water after the hot wash, then you need to do another cold rinse cycle.

6. Finally, tumble dry the diaper(s) and insert(s) on a low or delicate setting.

DONE!

It sounds arduous at first glance, but it was really simple and didn’t take me very long at all. In fact the cold rinse itself only takes like 15 minutes in my washer. There is an option on my washer to skip directly to the cold rinse instead of going through an entire wash cycle.

Fuzzi Bunz diapers are really impressive. They hold in the waste products extremely well, they stay on my son’s little body excellently. All in all, bravo! They are an excellent product. I am so glad that FuzziBunz allowed me the chance to sample their product. And now that I have sampled their excellent cloth diapers, I have decided to purchase them.

For more information about FuzziBunz, visit their website

Brooklyn Botanic Garden – How I Love The

Every time I visit the Brooklyn Botanic Garden (BBG) with my son, I fall in love a little more. I love how calm the Garden is. I love how it makes me feel like I am in another world. I love how my son reacts to the trees and flowers; how he instantly calms down the moment we enter the gates of the Garden.

The Garden is an excellent place to take your child. They love looking around at the different plants, flowers and trees. And if they are walking, there is plenty of room for them to run around the various winding roads and paths.

They also have a discovery garden to children over 3 years of age, but you can walk with your baby through it as well.

Admission to the Garden is $8.00 for adults, and free for children under 12. On Tuesdays admission is free all day. It is also free to visit the BBG on Saturdays from 10am -12pm.

The Garden offers a variety of memberships. The individual and family memberships are pretty decently priced if you plan on going often. To find out more about the BBG and membership options, click here

When to Take Your Child to the E.R.

My good friend and fellow mother, Gry, forwarded me this insightful article from CNN.com about when it is appropriate to take your child to the emergency room.

The article lists key symptoms that warrant medical attention. I encourage you all to take a look at it here

The article also encourages parents to trust their instincts. If something doesn’t feel right to you, take your child in.

Thank you good friend and fellow mother, Gry!

Hitting a Frustration Threshold

I have always been an impatient person. I hate waiting in lines, being on hold on the phone, waiting for someone to call me back or answer my text or email. I have an extremely low frustration tolerance.

This low frustration tolerance does not come in handy when having a child.

Today, my son was having a bad day. Was he hungry? Nope. Everything I offered him to eat he promptly rejected. Except for Cherrios. All he wanted to eat today was Cherrios. Try as I might, forcing vegetables in front of him he pushed them out of the way.

I tried to play with him, he didn’t want that either. I thought maybe he was tired, so I attempted to put him down for a nap. But all he did was scream.

Finally, I was completely and utterly exasperated. So I yelled at him:

“What do you want?!!!”

His response: he began crying hysterically.

Needless to say, I wanted to bang my head against a brick wall. Or throw myself out a window. It is during these moments that I wish babies could talk. It would really make things a lot easier.

People tell you:
“Having a baby is hard.”

What they don’t tell you is that sometimes, as adorable as your kids are, they push you to your absolute limit and beyond.

I have never been tested so much in my entire life. And it has really grated on my nerves.

However, I have to tell you, that I feel like (in some bizarre way) being utterly frustrated by my child has made me a more patient person in other situations. I observe myself behaving more patiently in situations in which before I had a child I would have flipped out. So being pushed to a frustration threshold has somewhat of an upside.

Now Hear This: New York City Citizens Help Mom With Stroller!

Today my son and I took a journey from Brooklyn to the illustrious Manhattan. Our mode of transportation: the good old fashioned New York City subway system.

I strapped him into his stroller and hit the road.

Thankfully, my subway station is handicapped accessible so we were able to use the elevators to travel from the street level to the subway level with my son securely fastened in his stroller.

The trouble arrived when I made it to my destination stop. There was no elevator to speak of, and I was going to have to do the inevitable: carry my son in his stroller up the subway stairs.

Until a nice gentleman came to my rescue and asked

“You need help with that, miss?”
“Yes!” I replied instantaneously.

And with that he transported my son up the stairs.

During the course of my journey, several other strangers assisted me with my stroller. And I didn’t even have to solicit their help. They willingly volunteered their services.

And they say New Yorkers are rude and unhelpful!

It just goes to show you. There are some decent people out there, and some of them live in New York City.

Why I Love Steve Burns

The short answer to this question is because my son loves him.

For those of you that don’t know, Steve Burns is the former host of the children’s television show “Blue’s Clues.” The show no longer airs new episodes, but reruns are on Noggin every morning from 7am – 8am.
Blue’s Clues is an educational show that is meant to teach young children (mainly pre-schoolers) a variety of things ranging from counting to where the planets are in outer space.

Even though cognitively, my son doesn’t get a lot of what is going on on the show, he really enjoys the songs associated with Blue’s Clues as well as the fact that it is highly interactive.

The host, Steve Burns, known to the audience simply as “Steve” is very charismatic. The premise of the show is that he is looking for three separate clues in order to figure out a puzzle. Along for the ride is his dog, Blue. Hence the name “Blue’s Clues.”

The show aired from 1996 – 2006. But Steve left the show at some point and was replaced by a character named “Joe” who in my opinion is no Steve.

When my son sees Steve ask a question or sing a song, his face lights up. He even starts bouncing to the beat of the music.

I thought it might just be the show itself that he liked, but he truly can tell the difference between Steve and Joe. He is not engaged very much at all when he watches the “Joe” version of Blue’s Clues. But he goes nuts for Steve.

Steve Burns, I’d like to thank you for entertaining my son. I wish your career still consisted of entertaining babies and toddlers, but I know you’ve moved on to bigger and better things.

Check out what Steve is doing now at his official web page

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